This is the seventh post of a series of nine: comments about the full life. On the startpage of the nine posts there is a short introduction to the series. Also there are nine links,
one to each of the posts, and nine links, one to each of the nine video realizations.
The bonds of youth are characterized by bound dependency.
As anyone who needs postnatal care in order to stay alive, you developed a conditioned identity in your youth.
Of the entity that is you, this is the first identification as a worldly I.
This conditioned identity is the total of learned and reacting patterns of thinking, patterns of feeling and patterns of behaving.
The entity that is you lives in a state of dependence with the caregivers.
This bound dependency of the youthful bond can be binding or non-binding.
Binding is the bound dependency of childhood, when there is love in the situation of your upbringing.
As a child you receive confirmation of the entity that is you and your primary worldly I will stay in touch with your birth condition.
As for anyone who has developed a conditioned identity, after the biological stage of youth is over, a second identification of the entity that is you as worldly I is essential.
In order to progress to the mature state of unbound dependency.
This unbound dependency of the adult bond is always binding.
(So you can know and can be known.)
When the bound dependency of youth was binding, the practice of this second identification is an evaluation of your first identification, and a reaffirmation of your conditioned identity as appropriate cultural identity.
If you succeed in making this transition from bound to unbound dependency, then the bonds of youth remain binding.
And new bonds to be entered into will be marked by unbound dependency.
Unbound dependency is the hallmark of the bond, in which the possibility to know each other is embedded.
Unbound dependency is the hallmark of the bond between two individuals who are in their lives.
Giving and receiving is the bidirectional attitude of this know-bond between love and love, a bond that never cools and reaches beyond the boundaries of life and death.
If you as an adult have acquired this state of unbound dependency at the moment of death, then you go on to the realms of death as a known identity.
And every unbound dependent relationship you had, will as know-bond continue for as long as the other, with whom you have this bond, is alive.